Sometimes, people-pleasers find it difficult to tell someone "no." Luckily, Oprah.com has posted an article which provides people with the tools necessary to stand up for themselves. Here's a sample:
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How To Say No To…...
"You wouldn't mind ________, would you?"
1 "Actually, I would."
..."You know what I mean?"
2 "Actually, I don't."
3 "There's an idea!"
...someone you've said yes to in the past:
4 "Yes! (as in, yes to your gut feeling that the right answer is no): "I know I've agreed to ________ in the past, but it only made me feel anxious/uncomfortable/overwhelmed. That's why it's important for me to now say no."
(conan): I've decided to apply some of the "techniques" to my everyday life.
Situation # 1 (DIsplayed as graphics on screen. Items underlined appear blank at first)
"You wouldn't mind removing your foot from my chest, would you?"
"Actually, I would, your Honor."
Situation # 2
"Hey, you probably shouldn't play with those live wires."
"There's an idea."
Situation # 3
"Where's your condom?"
"I know I've agreed to wear a condom in the past, but it only made me feel anxious/uncomfortable/overwhelmed. That's why it's important for me to now say no."